How To Live With More Of A Purpose?
You ever wake up and wonder why you're doing what you're doing?
I've done exactly that, many times, and often find myself in search for a meaningful 'long term' goal that I can successfully work towards.
But it's just not that easy.
For decades, psychologists have studied how meaningful long-term goals develop throughout our lives.
Goals that give us a sense of purpose can change the outlook of our lives.
Indeed, a feeling of "the meaning of life" has historically motivated us humans to accomplish big things both individually and together as a group.
In an evolutionary sense, having purpose helps our species to survive and thrive.
But finding and actually starting your dream may be the hardest part.
Psychologists know firsthand that nothing else matters if you are not succeeding in your soul’s purpose.
Personally I've struggled finding purpose, and during that period of
"lack of direction and purpose" I wasn't present mentally.
Always daydreaming, or drifting off. Feeling like I had something else to do.
I needed to find a purposeful goal to work towards.
But that feeling of being lost is only temporary.
Once you do find a purposeful goal and start to get some traction, life really opens up.
Here's some tips on living life with a purpose and how to find yours.
Realize What Living With A Purpose Feels Like
Living with a purpose gives you a sense of belonging. It's gives you motivation when you wake up. It gives you confidence.
When someone at a party asks you about life, you can skip the small talk and discuss your passion, your purpose, and give an update on your goals.
When you live with a purpose, your whole body comes alive. Literally.
Studies have shown that living with a purpose may just keep you alive and prevent early death.
Don't Confuse Being Busy With Having Purpose
lots of people "stay busy" to feel a sense of purpose, but 'being busy' and having purpose are not the same thing.
You can "stay busy" with small goals, but in order to 'have purpose' you need big goals.
When you are not living with a purpose, everything is colorless and foggy.
You are bored and busy at the same time, but constantly tired.
Even minor things feel like work.
When you live life with purpose, on purpose you feel positive, passionate, and satisfied from within.
You are not worried about how to get where you are going. You are sure of yourself and know you will get there eventually, even if you are scared at the same time.
Find Your Purpose From Within (deep within)
You are the master of your own life. You navigate your own ship.
Deep within, you already know what makes you feel alive. You just have to pay attention.
Are you looking for your purpose. It's tough to find something if you're not looking for it.
Sometimes access to your souls purpose is blocked by doubt, fear or ego, especially if you have ignored your purpose for quite a long time.
Practice connecting with your inner calling and tuning in to what you feel deep down. This sins't always easy, and might take some alone time to sort out your deep feelings.
Some people find journaling to be the most effective way to sort out deep feelings and find purpose within, but you can also try meditation, being alone in nature, walking or driving.
Basically with time alone to think.
But when you do find inspiration and purpose, trust your gut.
6 Tips To Live With More Purpose.
1. Don't Let Fear Control Your Purpose
Come out of your comfort zone and TAKE ACTION.
I personally struggle with coming out of my comfort zone, but when I do, I understand that it's part of my growth.
If you do not wake up energetic to kick off your day, then make a change so you can start waking up with more enthusiasm.
We feel comfortable and secure with how things used to work.
Changes make us terrified. It's part of our Human DNA.
Fear is in us and will be there, but it cannot rule you unless you allow it to.
Even if you're scared or fearful of change, you're not alone, but you have to take action toward your life goals anyway.
Change is good and signals growth.
Successful people do not look back.
Leap and move forward.
Command your fear before it fills you with doubt and negativity.
2. Rethink Your To-Do List
Time is money, and you should know how to spend well.
Time management is a mandatory part of success and living with purpose. If you don't understand what matters, you will pay for it by spending time "staying busy" instead of moving with a purpose.
Successful people constantly outline their goals and ambitions.
Understand what the 'most important' task is and what the least important task is.
I've found that most successful people who are living with a purpose make sure they set goals for themselves, identify the actions to take, and update their list every week.
Observe the goals on your list and delete them, delegate them or do them.
Sometimes it is worth paying someone else to do smaller things so you can concentrate on bigger goals.
ALWAYS keep your big picture goals in mind when editing you to-do list.
3. Own Your Life And Take Responsibility To Have More Purpose
Understand that you are in control of your life.
Life is not "happening" to you. You make life happen. Your life right now is a product of your decisions. And your decisions only.
Good or bad, own it! Take responsibility.
You don't "have" to get coffee in the morning, you "want to", so enjoy it. Move with purpose and intention. You see the difference?
Life is not conspiring against you because you got a speeding ticket. Own your mistake, accept reality, and move on. Keep going.
Understand that you are where you are in life because of the decisions that you've made.
You can also change where you are in life by setting goals and living with the purpose of achieving those goals.
The more responsibility you take on, the stronger your purpose will be.
4. Read More Books To Find Purpose
I've always been more of an "outdoors and sports" person than a "book worm" but recently I've been reading more and finding myself more connected with , well myself.
Turns out, I'm not the only one.
According to a study by Berkley University those who read (especially fiction) are more likely to find deep connection with the characters giving insight to entire lifespans, with-out actually living the life of the character.
Reading can also bridge the gap between the "HOW" in how to live with more purpose.
Reading gives deep perspective and insight on achieving goals. Find a book written by someone who has already achieved great success in your field to widen your perspective and give you deeper meaning, understanding, and purpose in achieving your goals.
5. Spend Time Helping Others To Find Purpose in Life
I also struggle with this one sometimes.
It may seem counterproductive to take time away from working on your goals to help someone else with theirs, but according to The Journal of Positive Psychology, that is exactly the case.
A study published in 2014 found that people who helped others have a greater sense of purpose in their lives.
Finding purpose is not an intellectual pursuit, but it is something that you have to feel.
Some people work 'dead end' jobs for 40 years only to find their true purpose late in life.
There's no right or wrong way to find purpose, but why wait?
If you are ever having trouble finding your purpose, take a look at the people around you.
Many people believe the purpose of life arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from the rest of the community.
Embrace your strengths, and ignore the distractions around you.
Once you find your path, you will eventually create circumstances and goals to reach it.
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